Steps in Planning a Funeral or Memorial Service
While every ceremony is unique to the individual and the needs of their family, the underlying importance of the event remains the same: it is the single most important step you can take toward healing after loss – for everyone involved.
The Arrangement Conference
Therein lies the focus of the arrangement conference. We will sit down with you and ask the questions, share the stories, and explore the many options available to you. In that way we will lead us all to the most appropriate service for your loved one, your faith, and your budget.
You will choose where, when and how to hold the funeral or memorial service. You will choose the musical selections, the prayers, and the special personal touches that will help you commemorate the life of someone you held so dear to you. We’ll advise you where we need to; but in the end, you’ll make the decisions and then leave the rest to us.
During this time we will also gather vital statistic information to complete the Death Certificate, assist you in writing an obituary, and go over Veterans' Benefits if any apply.
We'll also discuss if you would like to order flowers and offer local florist information; if you would like a limo for the day of the service; and if you will have your own pall bearers.
The first decision involves selecting the location for your loved one’s funeral or memorial service. You can choose to hold your ceremony in our beautiful chapel or you can choose to hold it elsewhere. You'll also need to decide if there will be a minister or priest presiding over the service.
Should your Mass be held at St. Anthony of Padua Church in Litchfield or Our Lady of Grace Church in Bantam, we will assist you in filling out the Order Of Mass Form and go over the Music Selections as we will prepare the programs for church. If you prefer to have a service at the funeral home we will prepare these programs also.
Next, you may wish to inform your wider circle of family and friends of the event location, date, and time. We will help you spread the word, through our print and online channels to bring your community together to commemorate your loved one’s life.
When Choosing Burial
If you’ve chosen to have your loved one buried, you may wish to have the casket present at the service. In addition, many people choose to hold a viewing prior to the service. Whatever you decide, we will work with you to ensure that you have every opportunity to bring family and friends together to say a final goodbye before the burial.
About Cremation and Ceremony
Many families think that when they choose cremation, there is no way they can hold a memorial service, funeral, or remembrance service.
This is simply not true. In fact, we strongly recommend that you hold a memorial service to help you and your loved ones in the healing process.
There are new options available to you which make it easier to bring cremation and ceremony together. We can provide you with a rental casket for your loved one, so that family members and friends can benefit from attending a visitation and a funeral prior to the cremation.
Today many families wish to have a funeral reception following the service, and this is something we would be pleased to offer recommendations for. It can be a small, intimate gathering, or a larger, community-wide event.
What Comes Next?
In short, what comes next involves coming together with family and friends to discuss their needs and desires. And if your loved one had prepared pre-arrangement plans with us, or any other funeral home – no matter the location – it’s vital that you retrieve those plans and bring them with you when you come in to see us.
If you need further assistance or advice, please contact us and we’ll guide you in the right direction.